Boundaries

Where do you draw the line?

How do you set limits or make rules to protect yourself—physically and mentally?

As someone who wants everyone to be happy, it can sometimes be difficult to establish boundaries. It’s easy to say “yes” when you actually want to say “no.” But I’m learning that boundaries are essential for a healthy life. They create an environment of trust, improve self-esteem, and provide a sense of control, to name a few benefits.

No matter what we do in life, there will always be someone who doesn’t like our choices or has an opinion. So, why not create healthy boundaries that prioritize your mental and physical well-being?

If you want to stay in and read a book while all your friends are going out, it’s okay to say no. If you don’t like being hugged or touched, it’s okay to say no. If you don’t want to work overtime, it’s okay to say no. Remember, you may not always feel this way, and that’s okay—your boundaries can evolve as your life does.

If you’re unsure where to start with setting boundaries, begin with self-reflection. Identify what you need and what aligns best with your values. Think about how much time you want to dedicate to different aspects of your life. Pay attention to how certain situations or behaviors make you feel. Make self-care a priority, be consistent and clear, and, if it helps, write down your boundaries so you can see them and feel more confident in enforcing them.

Boundaries aren’t rude—they’re a clear, intentional way to protect your mental and physical health.

“No is a complete sentence.” — Anne Lamott